We all love the idea of finding a soul mate, someone who you connect with completely, who will complete you, who is destined to be with you, forever. It is a lovely, romantic idea. Some people search their entire lives for that one special person they are meant to be with and never find them. Others may think they've found their soul mate only to find that years later, they no longer share a connection and then they find another person who they believe is their true soul mate. And still others find several people throughout life who they connect with completely, be it their life partner, their best friend or even a relative like a close sister, brother or twin.
The term 'soul mate' is used loosely and can have many different meanings to different people. Unfortunately, the expectation of finding a soul mate for life may also set you up for failure in your relationships. People use the idea of soul mates to explain why a relationship worked or why it didn't, believing that the person wasn't their soul mate after all or meeting a new person that they connect with immediately so therefore they must be their soul mate.
So, what exactly are the characteristics of a soul mate? It is difficult to pin it down exactly, but here are a few ideas:
- Someone you connect with immediately.
- Someone who makes you feel good about yourself.
- Someone who knows everything about you and still loves you unconditionally.
- Someone who can finish your sentences, knows you inside-out and understands you completely.
- Someone who makes you feel happy just being in the same room as them.
- Someone you feel both physically and spiritually connected to.
I believe in soul mates. We see lucky couples who have been in love for ages and still hold hands and look at each other with pure love. We see friendships that last from childhood until old age, two people who connected so deeply that time cannot separate them. Some people may even find more than one soul mate, either in love or in friendship. But whether or not you believe in soul mates, you can't deny that some relationships are much stronger than others, bonded for life.
In my novel, SARA'S PROMISE, I explore the idea of soul mates. Sara believes that her husband, William, is her soul mate, a person she has been connected to in the past and will always be connected to. She vows to William that even in death, she knows she will always be connected to him and will find a way to take care of him. When Sara dies suddenly, William truly feels he's lost his forever. But five years later, he meets a young woman who is the complete opposite of Sara and yet he is drawn to her. Could she also be his soul mate? Could he find a new forever with her?
Do you believe in soul mates?
Add Sara's Promise to your "to-read" list on Goodreads.
Cheers,
Deanna
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